Life is a rollercoaster ride of emotions and situations. Just as good times give us positive vibes, bad times do give us low emotional states. As humans, we do tend to feel demotivated as soon as we hear of any loss. Be it of a dear human, a pet, or even financial loss.

So, what do we do? 

Should we just give in to our emotions or is there a way to spring up from that situation? 

As an old saying says, “There is no better teacher than life’s bad times”, these difficult situations can actually help you grow. 

Here are 5 ways how you can gain from a loss:

1. Let a positive attitude be your only choice – Being positive every day is not a child’s play. More so when you have just had a loss. However, your strong willpower can help you develop a positive attitude. It not only helps you get over difficult situations but also increases faith in yourself. For example, if your company has incurred a heavy loss – Introspect the reasons, dig deeper and use this opportunity to analyze what does not work and never repeat that. This may be a key learning point to help you grow.
2. Try not to think about the loss and learn to let go –It is indeed difficult not to think of loss when you are the person who just faced it. The only way to get over it soon is to divert your mind from the loss. Change your perspective to something more positive. Stop digging in reasons for it or people to blame etc. If you are holding on to those thoughts, learn to let go. Destiny might have planted you in such a situation for a reason. Try to see if you can evolve like a cactus. 
3. Stay away from people and things that are not good for your mental health – Staying positive and #gainingfromloss is a conscious and sometimes tiring effort. It can be done only by eliminating people who give you negative vibes or things that keep reminding you of the loss. Negative news, social media articles, or some people who are constantly repressive must be avoided always and especially when you are healing and trying to get back to normal.
4. Give yourself a motivating self-talk – Schedule some time each day when you will solely concentrate on next steps, possible good things that can happen in near future, or just to say to yourself that “You can do it”. In short, be your own #lifecoach and motivator. Talk to yourself and rethink how you have overcome difficult times in the past.  It may seem like a play that you are enacting where you are your own coach but it may work wonders. This encouraging talks each day helps you see the positive side of difficult situations.
5. Talk to people who you trust – A deep and insightful conversation with a trusted person has the power to rekindle your spirits. Choose a person who you can trust with your feelings and open up to them.

During the conversation, it is most likely you could see the brighter side of the loss. More often, a third person’s perspective and soothing words help you get out of the constant negative thoughts you might be having.

Believe in yourself and your capability to grow. 

As said by a great person “In good times, choose to enjoy fully. In bad times, choose to grow stronger. At all times, be grateful for the experience.”